Inspiring words for finals. Chills every time.
So March Madness starts in a few days. I seriously cannot wait to see Baylor and Notre Dame meet up in the finals. Who’s excited to watch Brittney Griner play? O wait… nobody’s interested? I guess I’ll write about Men’s College Basketball.
Side-note before I begin: People try and explain how sad it is that women’s sports are not as popular as men’s sports. Sure it’s sad, but it’s not our fault, and by our fault, I mean men. We can’t help that we can’t call your college playoff March Madness because it’s not “Mad” at all. There is no drama when all four #1 seeds make it to the Final Four. Nobody has heard of a Cinderella story in women’s college basketball, and I bet if there was, people would be up in arms about calling it a Cinderella story. It’s not sexist. Once there is more parity in women’s sports maybe people will start caring more, or once they start dunking like Lebron. And if you really need a greater explanation, go watch the newest 30 for 30 on the NC State team, THAT is why it’s called March Madness.
Ok back on track. So it is one of the greatest times of the year, March Madness. I mean other than the NBA Playoffs and about every Sunday during Football season. Time for people to start making their brackets and making their bets…man I wish I was in Vegas for these games. So as I prepared to make my brackets, I was watching ESPN and they had their segment showing President Obama showing us his picks. Now I was sitting there listening to his picks and his commentary, it got me thinking about why we have cared for the past few years what the president picked for march madness. I may be wrong, but I am fairly sure that Clinton nor Bush ever made picks on ESPN telling people who they thought would win the college playoffs.
So since I am pretty sure this trend has started with President Obama, doesn’t it seem insane and fairly racist that because we have a black president that he somehow knows a lot about college basketball? AND athletes make such a big deal about going over to the White House to play the president in some HORSE, OMG have you seen that guy shoot? The man’s form is horrible, and usually lefties have good form (look it up). So to me it seems insane that because the guy shoots a few baskets on his downtime and plays HORSE against Kobe that all of a sudden we have to spend time hearing his analysis on picks. Which leads me to my final point.
When does the president have the time to watch all these college teams? He seems to have some fairly indepth analysis on teams. I have two theories, #1: this man isn’t using his time wisely and is watching too much college basketball, or #2: He is wasting resources by having some White House staff do research for him and send him their findings, thus making him a fraud. Now I don’t know which one it is, but I suspect it’s one of them.
So I am excited to see where the presidency goes next, will love to see what news/sports stations will have lets say a woman, hispanic, or asian president do. Here’s some theories that I have discussed with some people. For women, maybe some fashion advice on the red carpet. Hispanics, some soccer analysis and for the Asian, some comic-con or electronic convention hosting. Seriously this will be exciting.
Ok now back onto the topic of March Madness, I can’t wait to watch the scores during class tomorrow.
So I just spent the other weekend up in San Luis Obispo celebrating and helping with the engagement of one of my best friends and his now fiancé. It was a really good time and I will spare any story telling as it will take too long and you should just ask them. Since they love having to retell this story, over and over again. The weekend was amazing and I am so happy for the both of them. It did make me think about engagements, their history, how these traditions got started, and a lot of other things. I would like to say that my friend had a hand in coming up with some of these ideas, but to save him from any torment, I will say that this is a solo post….
The History of Engagements
The origins of engagements are traced back to Abraham. Marriage consisted of two separate acts, “erusin” which was the betrothal ceremony and then the “chupah” which was the actual marriage celebration. The Erusin would change the people’s relationship status and the Chupah would legally bind them into the marriage relationship. Rings came into play in the olden Jewish days, but the typical modern day ring was given in the Roman times. Romans believed that the circle represented eternity and that two clasps together would signify a contract. The practice of putting the ring on the 4th finger of the left hand was started by the Romans because they believed there was a nerve that ran from that finger to your heart.
Where We are Today
So now girls get a diamond ring to wear when the guy asks them to be wed. This got me really thinking, and why is it that women only get a ring? My first inclination was that women only get the ring because males typically had to pay a dowry to their future wife’s family. Basically buying her from her family (making the argument pretty strong that women are more expensive than men because their families had to make some of that money back!). But it was very peculiar to me, because the purpose of an engagement ring and marriage bands are to signify to the other people that you have made a commitment to another person to be with them, and like the Erusin, that your relationship status amongst society has officially changed, and you’re off the market. What does that say about our current system? That really, although the guy just asked the girl to marry him, to the outside world he has no change of relationship status. Guys should really get something in order to signify this. Instead of making it just facebook official, why not get your guy a band? I did some further reading and I think the Argentinian people have got the right idea, along with the people in Norway and Finland…
"They are made of silver ("alianza de plata") when manifesting an informal "boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship, though this first step might not always happen; howbeit depending on finances, this may be the only ring given at all. The gold band ("anillo de compromiso" or "alianza de oro") is given to the bride when the commitment is formal and the [optional] diamond ring ("cintillo") is reserved for the wedding ceremony when the groom gives it to the bride. The gold band that the groom wore during the engagement - or a new one, as some men choose not to wear them during engagement - is then given to the groom by the bride; and the bride receives both the original gold band and the new diamond at the ceremony. The bride’s diamond ring is worn on top of the engagement band at the wedding and thereafter, especially at formal occasions or parties; otherwise the engagement band suffices for daily wear for both parties. At the wedding, the rings are swapped from the right to the left hand. In Brazil, they are always made of gold, and there is no tradition for the engagement ring. Both men and women wear the wedding band on their right hand while engaged, and, after they marry, they shift the rings to their left hands. In Nordic countries such as Finland and Norway, both men and women wear an engagement ring." (Wikipedia)
Right now girls get diamonds and guys get nothing. What is up with that pricing discrepancy? AND they get another band at the wedding? Girls want to always talk about how unfair things are in the world. Well that’s because we have to spend a ton more on you. That’s why women make about 80 cents to our dollar. But in order to make things more fair I have a few suggestions.
Suggestion Box Friday!
#1 The guy gets a band
This is easy. Get some cheap engagement band after for the guy to signify that you are both engaged. Not that he is just engaged to you. Cause really it should be a reciprocal action where you are both making commitments. He’s locked you up, you better lock him up.
#2 Special Gift
With the Olympics just having ended not too long ago, I thought it would be a great idea if girls bought the guy a medal for his asking. A gold medal ceremony a day or two after the guy asks you to marry him? That’d be amazing. Play that national anthem! Another good gift to get a guy is a watch. I mean who wouldn’t want a Tag Heuer Monaco?
#3 One Up
I figure in most relationships there is going to be some sort of competition involved. Why not carry that to the engagement asking and compete to see who can ask the best/most creatively? I think that it would be awesome to mix up either one of the ones above and ask the guy after he asks you. This btw is an advantage to you women because you have the opportunity to go second. So really you are in a position to be more special still. Don’t worry, guys are sensitive enough that they would appreciate it.
So to conclude with my own personal recommendation, Caroline Mimi Shyu, I think you have some work to do.
The title says it all. In order for this world to become a better place, all of this nonsense has to stop immediately.
#1 Too many exclamation points!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I mean honestly, since when did statements need to have so many exclamation points at the end? If you are so excited about something, isn’t one good enough? And ok I understand that you may be excited over something, and sure some things I will say may necessitate more than one, for example; you got engaged, finished school, got into school, had a kid, etc. BUT limit it to 4, because beyond that it just becomes excessive. Secondly, you can’t put a ton of exclamation points after some nonsense statement that nobody should be excited over. For example; I love clouds!!!!!!!!!!!, Light switches are cool!!!!!!!, Clorox!!!!!!!…..honestly stop it, nobody is going to take you seriously if you do that enough if you are excessive with the exclamation points because then when something truly amazing happens, nobody will think it’s that exciting. And as a side note, putting things in all-caps is almost the same thing, unless you are showing that you are hyped out over the internet.
I am not too sure what the point of instagram is….so this may be out of place. But one thing I know for sure is that I am pretty sure it is not meant for people to post pictures of their food 24/7. If you at something good, text me and let me know, don’t post some lame picture with some filter thinking that it is artsy. I am pretty sure you are supposed to be posting pictures of cool things you see or things you are doing, not your daily meals….do you really care if I post pictures of my breakfast every morning? Or a burger? Really? Have some discretion on the Instagram please.
I have a new rule. Tanktops cannot be worn by dudes unless it is above 80 degrees outside. I won’t even pretend to understand women fashion so I will excuse them wearing tank tops….since I am pretty sure that is more a part of their fashion. Dudes that wear tank tops when its 65 outside are not getting the point. I am pretty sure you are supposed to wear these things during the summer, not as a clothing item to show off your muscles that you supposedly have. Seriously save them for the summer.
#4 Vague Status’
People who write a Facebook status or a Tweet with something like, “Ugh, Angry” should be flagged as inappropriate and kicked off. Instead of writing some vague status, tell what made you angry or what happened in your life. I’d rather see some long-winded status than this vague thing that prompts people to ask you subsequent questions. Stop fishing for questions and friends and just inform people on what’s going on.
#5 People driving raised trucks with their headlights in my rear view mirror
This one is only frustrating for me because I drive my small Honda Accord. Whenever someone has a raised truck, it should be illegal for them to drive without their headlights re-adjusted so they don’t shine directly into my rearview mirror. A couple of things. First, don’t complain that it may cost you time or money on fixing this, you already spent an inordinate amount to make yourself look like a bro. Second, it’s an obvious safety hazard because it’s not only distracting, but also impairs my vision and does not allow me to use my rear view mirror anymore.
#6 Self-proclaimed swag
What is going on in this world? This might be one of things that needs to change the most. So many people nowadays think that everything that they do, deserves the tag of “swag.” First off, let your supposed “swag” talk for itself. The people that have to self-proclaim their swag are those people like freaking Justin Bieber who don’t have it. You don’t see people like Jay-Z, or Kobe coming off a championship talking about their swag. Instead people like Bieber who can’t rap and isn’t ghetto have to throw in swag all over the place to make people believe that they have swag. There is a psychological rule that as you are exposed to something more, that your beliefs about that thing will become stronger with repetition. So these people are probably just trying to bombard our minds with repetitive swag tags so that we might believe that they actually have swag, because when we see the word “swag” we might associate them with it. So stop playing your jedi mind tricks on people, let your actions speak for themselves, if you have swag, then I’m sorry this isn’t for you since you probably don’t self proclaim it because you know you already have it.
What’s the point of these? People always say that it saves you time and it’s more efficient. Wrong. This is a less efficient way for you to speak, because as it may be more convenient and efficient for you to sound less intelligent, it makes the other person you are speaking to think harder about what you’re saying because they have to decipher and decode everything. You are being real selfish in wasting someone else’s time. I love English too much to allow this to go further. I hope I am able to start my own firm or to be a boss later someday, because if someone says one these abbreviations, FIRED.
Take a look at that link. This is an article by the people of Twitter of what hashtags are supposed to be used for. People have seriously perverted the use of hashtags. What they are not are things that are supposed to finish your thought, for example; I am so good at Monopoly #becauseiwasabusinessmajor #usemylaweryingskillstonegotiate. Seriously, that is nonsense, there is no reason that, “becauseiwasabusinessmajor” will ever be a trending topic. Please do something that you can at least think will be relevant, but to be honest you may as well stick to what is already trending and to just go with the masses then try and start your own, because let me tell you if you do something like, “usemylawyeringskillstonegotiate” will not trend ever, and nobody cares.
#9 Girls with their mouths open in pictures
99% of girls now take pictures where they have their mouth open like instead of saying “Cheese” they are going with, “OMG!” I don’t know why this has started happening, but a piece of advice for you ladies…Guys like smiles. I figure there are a couple of reasons why girls may do this; either they think it’s cute (which it really isn’t), or they are trying to hide the fact that their smile may not be that great (which is deceptive and evil). Make life easier on yourself and just smile, probably takes less energy/muscle than keeping your mouth open like you’re super excited.
I am guilty of using YOLO in the Mount Hermon picture. But thanks to Drake, YOLO has become a normal things for people to say. First of all, people that have to say YOLO to things, are usually doing something dumb or something they know they shouldn’t be doing. Instead of listening to their guilty conscience, they just think, forget it, I’m only on this Earth once so here goes nothing! Additionally, we all know that we only live once, we don’t need the reminder thank you very much. Because we only live once stop wasting our lives with this reference and just stop it.
The defense appears to have first been asserted by Eve, who complained, when charged with eating fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil: “The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.” (Genesis 3:13.) Though Eve was unsuccessful in asserting the defense, it has been suggested that the defense was unavailable to her because the entrapping party was not an agent of the punishing authority.
This post has been a long time coming, realizing that I haven’t written anything in a while and that this just needs to be brought up. This post has been delayed for quite some time because law school is now starting to take a toll on whatever social life I used to hold onto. Which, by the way, does not mean that blogging is the only sort of social life I have haha. So I after this post I am going to take a sabbatical and focus on my new love…the law. What has come to my attention is why it is common courtesy now for couples to exchange baby pictures with one another. I admit I have done this, but only at the request of the other, not bringing up the idea myself. Why women want a baby picture of their significant other is beyond me….why a guy would want one is even further beyond me, and if you are a dude an initiate asking for a picture before your girl does; I want you to go find the closest mirror, and take a long look at yourself and really question your manhood.
So this summer it was, “Stephen moving back home/starting school” mode and that meant my mom wanted to do some major work in the house. That included a lot of cleaning, sorting, disposing, and reminiscing. We found old picture books for dayssss in our closets. My mom and I sat down and looked through many of these pictures, and all I kept hearing was, “Stephen look how cute you used to be (emphasis added).”
So going forward it got me wondering why girls always want some baby/toddler picture of the person they are dating. Then it donned on me that it was exactly why my mom said, it is because of how cute us guys USED to be. As guys age, we lose the cuteness that we once had when we were kids, and grow up to be refined, or as a classmate so eloquently put, “Men age with dignity and grace.” And like a little puppy or a teacup pig (holler for How I Met Your Mother being back on!), women are a sucker for small, cute things. So it allows girls to see past our tough and sophisticated exteriors and see us in a way that they enjoy. My blunt sister even agreed that having a baby picture of a guy is the only proof that the girl has that we were indeed cute. I would even throw out the idea that girls might think about how cute their future kids might be….if they are looking that far ahead….who knows.
I know I mentioned before that a guy should not initiate a request for a baby picture from their girl, and I am still sticking to that. No guy should look at some baby picture of a girl and get all giddy from it, from what I’m learning that is against the law guys. It’s just creepy if a guy were to be into that, because we are not created to like little and cute, but instead of a little puppy by your side, we are supposed to have a full grown German Shepard. I will refer back to my classmate as we were talking about his wedding, and he taught that we should learn to love how she looks today and everyday appreciate her more. It is for us to not look back and think what they once were, but what they are now.
So as I am learning more about how to survive during grad school, I’ll share some wisdom.
1. Turn off your cell phone during class
2. Be prepared to not go out on most weekends
3. Enjoy the library
4. Enjoy coffee
5. Buy a new pack of highlighters
6. Accept being pale
I have taken a sabbatical from this whole blogging hobby. Now with my head cleared and prepped to write again, I am ready to go to work. The way people use language has changed a lot over the years, I realize that the way that I talk has changed a lot just because of the friends that I hang around a lot. I find myself saying Dude, Really, and So Bad on many occasion and as long as I keep hanging around my friends the lines of our language will remain blurred.
After 4 years at Westmont with a crazy 3 ish to 1 ratio of chicas to dudes, you hear a lot of crazy things from the ladies. In particular women are notorious for manipulating language to either flatter or get what they want (plain evil). Before I continue, I will admit that I am not the nicest person out there, and that ya if I’m sarcastic or blunt towards you…such is life :). About 86% of the girls that I have met I would say are nicer than I am, and I could not believe that there are so many nice people out there. One thing that I have learned though after these pre-law school classes is that this world is far from perfect and there are a lot of crazy people out there. So I thought with much disbelief that could it possibly be that my percentage could be inflated? No way. Maybe I have been fortunate to have been surrounded by a lot of nice people…..WRONG. As I began to think about things more, I realize that girls are just as mean as I am…they just front like they aren’t.
The biggest infraction that I noticed was when girls use the word “cute.” Now I understand ladies if you are trying to talk up one of your friends to someone and so you have to make them sound as awesome as possible…I get that, I do that too. BUT not everything in this world is cute. Which I have come to realize that something (or even someone) could not be cute and yet girls time and time again will say the thing is cute. Totally killed the word, it now does not hold as much meaning. It’s kind of like if you throw around the word love a lot…just does not mean as much if you just sling that like Dennis the Menace…INSTEAD think of it like sling it around like David v. Goliath. Please be more creative, because now when you say something is cute…I’ll probably just assume you mean “ok” or “ugly” depending on my mood :). (and if you missed it there’s the statute of compliments, I made up the law myself thank you very much)
From this infraction of the statute of compliments, I will make another thing that has to be said. There is SO much value for people to be nice, and for the purposes of this blog I am just going to direct this to women, but by all means change women to men if you are a woman reading this and feel like you need to. But inherently women are nicer than men….I don’t know what it is about guys but I guess the Y chromosome just does not include the mental capacity to be inherently nice, you gotta work at it. And of course every guy looks for a women that is nice (guys have huge egos that can’t be undermined), but girls cant get hung up on this. One thing that I really appreciate from my closest gal pals is their honesty and realness with me. I think there is a lot of value for people that are real and don’t prance around like they are an angel…when everyone knows (and if they didn’t before they do now because they’re reading this) that you are evil too. Now now before anyone gets hurt I am just saying from the double entendre mentioned above that ladies you don’t have to front, if you really want to protect someone go ahead, but as mommy always said…honesty is the best policy!
Right now I am not sure if there are other words that would violate this golden statute I just created, but the great thing about laws is that there can be amendments :). And I am sure by the time I am done with this blog there will be like 20 amendments.
It’s good to be back.
Shout out About….Senor Sammy Montemer
So there was no picture of just us two…but since we are the only colored people in this picture besides the sneaky Mexican behind us it shouldn’t be hard for people to know who this about. But it was great living with you my last year of college, even though you were somewhat of a bum in the beginning I’m glad you finally decided to open up. I was very thankful to have you around when you were up in SB and even more thankful that you are somewhat around now that we are both back at home. Hopefully I can make you more asian with all my friends! Really enjoyed all the late night gaming, late night talks, and just trouble making we have done together. You are the man and I have to remind Becca about that all the time (I’m kidding she knows…I think). Soon enough you’ll be in the top 3 for your wedding!
Top 3 At The Moment
1. Sherman/Hall weddings in July
2. The End of LawPreview Hell Week
3. New Beginnings