What You Know About That?

The defense appears to have first been asserted by Eve, who complained, when charged with eating fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil: “The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.” (Genesis 3:13.) Though Eve was unsuccessful in asserting the defense, it has been suggested that the defense was unavailable to her because the entrapping party was not an agent of the punishing authority.

Lawyered.  

I’ve always wanted to bring back the wax and seal.  This seems like the only way I can for now.  Will be writing again soon.  

This post has been a long time coming, realizing that I haven’t written anything in a while and that this just needs to be brought up.  This post has been delayed for quite some time because law school is now starting to take a toll on whatever social life I used to hold onto.  Which, by the way, does not mean that blogging is the only sort of social life I have haha.  So I after this post I am going to take a sabbatical and focus on my new love…the law.  What has come to my attention is why it is common courtesy now for couples to exchange baby pictures with one another.  I admit I have done this, but only at the request of the other, not bringing up the idea myself.  Why women want a baby picture of their significant other is beyond me….why a guy would want one is even further beyond me, and if you are a dude an initiate asking for a picture before your girl does; I want you to go find the closest mirror, and take a long look at yourself and really question your manhood.  

So this summer it was, “Stephen moving back home/starting school” mode and that meant my mom wanted to do some major work in the house.  That included a lot of cleaning, sorting, disposing, and reminiscing.  We found old picture books for dayssss in our closets.  My mom and I sat down and looked through many of these pictures, and all I kept hearing was, “Stephen look how cute you used to be (emphasis added).”  

Shameless Plug

So going forward it got me wondering why girls always want some baby/toddler picture of the person they are dating.  Then it donned on me that it was exactly why my mom said, it is because of how cute us guys USED to be.  As guys age, we lose the cuteness that we once had when we were kids, and grow up to be refined, or as a classmate so eloquently put, “Men age with dignity and grace.”  And like a little puppy or a teacup pig (holler for How I Met Your Mother being back on!), women are a sucker for small, cute things.  So it allows girls to see past our tough and sophisticated exteriors and see us in a way that they enjoy.  My blunt sister even agreed that having a baby picture of a guy is the only proof that the girl has that we were indeed cute.  I would even throw out the idea that girls might think about how cute their future kids might be….if they are looking that far ahead….who knows.  

I know I mentioned before that a guy should not initiate a request for a baby picture from their girl, and I am still sticking to that.  No guy should look at some baby picture of a girl and get all giddy from it, from what I’m learning that is against the law guys.  It’s just creepy if a guy were to be into that, because we are not created to like little and cute, but instead of a little puppy by your side, we are supposed to have a full grown German Shepard.  I will refer back to my classmate as we were talking about his wedding, and he taught that we should learn to love how she looks today and everyday appreciate her more.  It is for us to not look back and think what they once were, but what they are now. 

So as I am learning more about how to survive during grad school, I’ll share some wisdom.

1. Turn off your cell phone during class

2. Be prepared to not go out on most weekends

3. Enjoy the library 

4. Enjoy coffee 

5. Buy a new pack of highlighters 

6. Accept being pale

I have taken a sabbatical from this whole blogging hobby.  Now with my head cleared and prepped to write again, I am ready to go to work.  The way people use language has changed a lot over the years, I realize that the way that I talk has changed a lot just because of the friends that I hang around a lot.  I find myself saying Dude, Really, and So Bad on many occasion and as long as I keep hanging around my friends the lines of our language will remain blurred.  

After 4 years at Westmont with a crazy 3 ish to 1 ratio of chicas to dudes, you hear a lot of crazy things from the ladies.  In particular women are notorious for manipulating language to either flatter or get what they want (plain evil).  Before I continue, I will admit that I am not the nicest person out there, and that ya if I’m sarcastic or blunt towards you…such is life :).  About 86% of the girls that I have met I would say are nicer than I am, and I could not believe that there are so many nice people out there.  One thing that I have learned though after these pre-law school classes is that this world is far from perfect and there are a lot of crazy people out there.  So I thought with much disbelief that could it possibly be that my percentage could be inflated?  No way.  Maybe I have been fortunate to have been surrounded by a lot of nice people…..WRONG.  As I began to think about things more, I realize that girls are just as mean as I am…they just front like they aren’t. 

The biggest infraction that I noticed was when girls use the word “cute.”  Now I understand ladies if you are trying to talk up one of your friends to someone and so you have to make them sound as awesome as possible…I get that, I do that too.  BUT not everything in this world is cute.  Which I have come to realize that something (or even someone) could not be cute and yet girls time and time again will say the thing is cute.  Totally killed the word, it now does not hold as much meaning.  It’s kind of like if you throw around the word love a lot…just does not mean as much if you just sling that like Dennis the Menace…INSTEAD think of it like sling it around like David v. Goliath.  Please be more creative, because now when you say something is cute…I’ll probably just assume you mean “ok” or “ugly” depending on my mood :). (and if you missed it there’s the statute of compliments, I made up the law myself thank you very much)

From this infraction of the statute of compliments, I will make another thing that has to be said.  There is SO much value for people to be nice, and for the purposes of this blog I am just going to direct this to women, but by all means change women to men if you are a woman reading this and feel like you need to.  But inherently women are nicer than men….I don’t know what it is about guys but I guess the Y chromosome just does not include the mental capacity to be inherently nice, you gotta work at it.  And of course every guy looks for a women that is nice (guys have huge egos that can’t be undermined), but girls cant get hung up on this.  One thing that I really appreciate from my closest gal pals is their honesty and realness with me.  I think there is a lot of value for people that are real and don’t prance around like they are an angel…when everyone knows (and if they didn’t before they do now because they’re reading this) that you are evil too.  Now now before anyone gets hurt I am just saying from the double entendre mentioned above that ladies you don’t have to front, if you really want to protect someone go ahead, but as mommy always said…honesty is the best policy! 

Right now I am not sure if there are other words that would violate this golden statute I just created, but the great thing about laws is that there can be amendments :).  And I am sure by the time I am done with this blog there will be like 20 amendments. 

It’s good to be back.

Shout out About….Senor Sammy Montemer

So there was no picture of just us two…but since we are the only colored people in this picture besides the sneaky Mexican behind us it shouldn’t be hard for people to know who this about.  But it was great living with you my last year of college, even though you were somewhat of a bum in the beginning I’m glad you finally decided to open up.  I was very thankful to have you around when you were up in SB and even more thankful that you are somewhat around now that we are both back at home.  Hopefully I can make you more asian with all my friends!  Really enjoyed all the late night gaming, late night talks, and just trouble making we have done together.  You are the man and I have to remind Becca about that all the time (I’m kidding she knows…I think).  Soon enough you’ll be in the top 3 for your wedding! 

Top 3 At The Moment

1. Sherman/Hall weddings in July

2. The End of LawPreview Hell Week

3. New Beginnings

It has been forever since I have last updated and I am sorry for my lack of updates.  What has come though is a ton more insights and awesomeness (ya right.)  Looking at the title you may think the post will about dogs…especially this cutie…

And I am going to tell you right off the bat that you are completely wrong. 

After sharing a great weekend with my wonderful WAC team down in Orange County, a topic came up that I had been meaning to write about previously but never got around to it, so now I am here to write to explore a new domain of the human subconscious.  Ya I am going to go all psychology on all of you after failing that color, animal, and vacation test that Trent and Megan tried to run on me. 

One thing I have noticed, which I am guilty of sometimes, is how much people (mostly girls) love to snuggle with pillows when watching a movie or TV.  This is how I cam up with the Puggle term….pillow snuggling.  What I am here to tell you is what I think of this odd behavior. 

1. If you have to Puggle you most likely are not that engaged with whatever is showing on the television.  Unless you’re watching a scary movie, there is no reason to snuggle with a pillow while a sports game is on or the Top 10 are on…be more engaged in the game and be more fun please.

2. If you have to Puggle you are most likely trying to avoid being close to whoever is next to you.  Puggler’s will keep their free roaming appendages away from any contact with another person so they puggle up as to not get close to any human contact.  Can’t really explain why this would be, probably just not comfortable with the other person but get over it. Now if you are doing it alone….it brings me to the most obvious point…

3. If you have to Puggle you have some deep seated loneliness.  Ok so here is where I go all Psychology on you guys and give you my theories.  Honestly if you need something to snuggle up with, you are most likely filling some sort of void, especially when doing some mundane task like watching television.  I think in the very ordinary activities the way we act when we do them speaks volumes about us because we arent in a special mentality as we would be in doing some special activity.  So this unconscious feeling of wanting to hold something eventually reveals its ugly face, the sad fact that the pillow dont snuggle back. 

But on the other hand if you are just trying to be comfortable, then be comfortable, just be warned you might hear me crack some joke about you puggling.  Man it is good to be back blogging once again. 

Shout Out About…Megan Decker

So what makes me the most sad about this post is that as I tried to find some pictures of us together, there is really only one!  And it happened over the weekend of our trip….so long into the year.  That is sad.  How is it that even after all of our WAC activities and such we do not have any pictures of us together…let alone a picture where we are standing next to each other!  haha so sad.  I really appreciate the fact that you introduced me to Balboa Bars….definitely a life changer.  It has been awesome getting to know you through this whole WAC experience and I look forward to a growing friendship possibly this upcoming year assuming that you’re SUPER excited to come down to Orange County :).  You are seriously the best Megan and it is so nice having someone on the team that is as sarcastic (if not more than) I am!  Let’s make the most out of these last couple months! 

Top 3 At The Moment…Basketball edition

1. Mike not making it to the winners bracket….Nice one 7th seed!  5 Points!

2. Lakers 13-1 since the All Star Break

3. March Madness….Vegas Baby!

This has been a great Christmas break so far.  I have to admit that I have done a whole lot of nothing, but hey I am a college graduate and have to take it easy right?  This means I have a lot of time to hang out with people….and that means only one thing.

Hanging out = Friends = Driving = Music = Blog post

So listening to a lot of music has inspired a couple of thoughts for a post.

1. Mixtapes

Listening to a lot of slowjams I have always wondered what people used as their mixtape essentials.  I am pretty sure every guy growing up in their Jr. High years used mixed CD’s as a form of game, trying to impress girls with their knowledge of slowjams, showing that they do indeed have a sensitive side.  Here’s the problem that arises….so many girls, not enough slowjams.  Solution?  Re-use songs.  I tried to reminisce about what songs I used and here is the Top 10 from the Ghost of Stephen Past (in no particular order).

1. I Swear…All-4-One

2. The Reason…Hoobastank

3. Drive…Incubus

4. All My Life…KC and JOJO

5. Greatest Story Ever Told…Oliver James

6. Long Time Comin….Oliver James

7. The Best of Me….Starting Line

8. Only One…Yellowcard

9. Miles Apart…Yellowcard (Only if you were in a long-distance thing with a lady)

10. Here Without You…3 Doors Down (Again another long-distance jam)

Now you might be wondering what I might use now…although the mixtape game is a little played out and dead…I don’t want to give away my secrets.  I will tell you though to no surprise I would DEFINITELY throw in some Celine and Josh.  But I think more importantly to any of younger people reading this, or if you would like to see what I think a current mixtape would look like…here is the 2010 Jr. High Mixtape

1. Love Story…Taylor Swift (Check this out for the dudes perspective)

2. You Belong with Me…Taylor Swift

3. Just the Way You Are…Bruno Mars

4. Just a Dream…Nelly

5. Mine…Taylor Swift

6. Wait for You…Elliot Yamin

7. I’m Yours…Jason Mraz

8. Everything…Michael Buble

9. 1,2,3,4…Plain White T’s

10. Just the Girl…The Click Five

2. Perfect Music for the Perfect Situations

So I was talking with a friend about what kind of music we listen to in the car.  Typically when you are by yourself in the car you play whatever you feel like.  No shame whatsoever, so you can blast your retro Backstreet Boy CD or attempt to sing as well as Celine Dion or Josh Groban.  Now whether the music you listen to by yourself is awesome or shameful, you HAVE to change it up when you have other people in your car.  You cant be bumpin your rap music when you are trying to impress someone special, and you can’t listen to pop when you got your boys.  Here are some situations that you may find yourself in and what type of music you can/should play.

1. Your Homies

So when you got your boys in the car, songs with no bass are not acceptable.  You are going to bore them to death playing some love making music.  Of course it is always funny to jam to something like Hoku or even Katy Perry, but that can only come in very small doses.  Some recommendations for you, rock music (Avenged Sevenfold, Offspring, or Rise Against), hip-hop (J Cole, Lupe, or Talib Kweli), or some reggae (Dispatch, Rebelution, or Dirty Heads)

2. Your Parentals, especially Mom

When you are being a chauffeur for your parents it is time to change up the tunes.  No Power 106 on the radio with songs bumpin about girls and drugs, but you have to play more mellow jams.  I would recommend going with some classic oldies or with the deal with my parents some Christian jams.  My recommendations here would be some Chicago, Journey, or some contemporary Christian music by Kutless or Casting Crowns. 

3. Your Lady…or Ladies ;)

From taking a friend to school to taking a special someone out for a date, you gotta be careful of what kind of music you play in your car because it may say something about you.  First impressions always mean a lot and so your music game has to be on point.  I believe that there are two routes that you can go when you have girls in your car.

1. Playing something that they like

or….what I like haha.

So for all you guys that listen to “shameful” music. this is your time to shine.  This strategy consists of playing music that the particular girl likes to listen to.  Typically girls like to listen to country, Top 20, or alternative rock.  I would recommend taking this route if you are fairly comfortable with the girl, assuming you would have to know her sorta well enough to know what kind of music she likes.  I would warn only doing this if she is comfortable around you because if you are playing music she likes, she will probably want to start singing along with the music.  And girls will only sing poorly to songs because that’s just how they are, don’t want to actually sing because they are self-conscious of their voices.

2. Silence of the Lambs

The second strategy has to do more with first dates or girls that you might not be totally comfortable with…or are REALLY trying to impress.  It is plain and simple…you can essentially play any sort of music as long as you turn the volume DOWN!  I still would not recommend playing hip-hop or rap or even hard rock because language may become an issue.  With the volume down, this creates a better atmosphere for talking.  And more talking means more fun for the both of you…I hope…this is why this strategy is so key for first dates or for new friends.  Really shows that you are going to take time to get to know this person, may even send signals that things won’t be awkward in the future, who knows.  Although I would say you could basically play anything because they wouldnt be able to hear it anyway…I would still make a general recommendation of playing carride-friendly music ie. OAR, Coldplay, Train, or even some Bruno Mars. 

Music is a huge part of our culture, entertaining us to countless ends, expressing feelings to catchy tunes (just check out the magic that Ke$ha is putting out there into the world….NOT!), and most importantly how we go about working game.  I hope that future generations do not lose the art of the mixed CD….or whatever new sort of music storage they will use in the future…but it is something that should be cherished.  

Top 3 At the Moment…

1. Reebok Pump’s, which BTW are WAAAYYY cooler than the Shape-Ups

2. Field of Dreams

3. Elf on the Shelf

Favorite Quote:

“There was a time when only people who texted you were people you wanted to text you…girls!  and they all said the same thing, ‘I’m coming over baby!’ And I would respond, ‘BTB…bring that booty’”   ~ Darryl from The Office

So I won’t be doing shout outs until I receive more requests.  So if you’d like one let me know.  Don’t want to do duplicates or else everyone will want one haha

I am officially done with my years at Westmont College!  This post will be mainly reflective, probably an atypical post for me.  This was inspired by my best friend JC who wrote another reflective post about his college career.  I hope to go year by year and share some of the great chapters that have been written in The Book of Stephen’s Life.

Freshmen Year:

What great memories were had in Page.  From meeting Justin on the first day to Frank and our famous “James Bond” ride around Santa Barbara.  It is tough to remember a lot of the things that I did freshmen year, probably since so much crazy stuff happened that merely writing about it would not do justice to the affect that it had on my life.  I mean who doesn’t enjoy being away from home living with tons of wonderful people?  I will honestly go down and say that Page 310 was the best room.  So lucky that I was matched up with Jason and Evan that year.  I met so many great people from Page and from Clark (ya that means you Pat).  Each one of you had a hand in my growth to who I am now and I cannot thank you enough for that.  But hey, it dont end there. 

Ya I think freshmen year really turned me whitewashed….I mean look at what I was exposed to.  Can’t say its a bad thing though! 

Sophomore Year:

Living down in Armington was a huge change from Page.  This year was proably one of the craziest years of my Westmont career.  The fire definitely made the year a bit more spicy.  This was a pretty momentous year as I declared my business major.  We definitely had a great time in Armington since most of the section was from Page and we had the great opportunity to take a suite for our group.  I remember how stressful it was having to deal with all of the housing.  This was a great of fostering great friendships.  I think my greatest memory of sophomore year was watching Entourage with Pat from when we got out of chapel till dinner on Fridays.  Let me tell you that is a whole lot of Entourage but it was so awesome nonetheless.  Newest additional memory from sophomore year…Justin’s smile after dinner when he got back from Mexico.  That definitely takes the cake.

Mano this is where you get your shout out.  I know this is a long time overdue since you are one of my most dedicated readers.  So I have had the honor and privilege with living with you since freshman year, and it has been good times ever since.  Glad that we have been able to hold down the cultural diversity fort.  I appreciate your friendship very much and how you can put up with all of my jokes.  We have had a lot of good times together and made a ton of memories that I will not soon forget.  You best get me those gold weapons in Call of Duty…just sayin.

Junior Year:

Junior year was a way different transition from the typical Westmont experience.  Living off campus in an apartment was definitely awesome, thankfully we lived close to Ocean View so we werent totally disconnected with the rest of the world.  Having to cook for yourself is always fun, since the DC does get tiring sometimes.  From turning 21 to having to work on an Industry Analysis (which B to the Dub is a pain) I think that this particular year a lot of things in my life changed.  After taking business law this is where I actually considered going into law….and bam here I am going in that direction.  God has been very gracious to me and looking back I am extremely blessed. 

Senior Year:

So I realize that it is only half way done, but it is basically over for me now.  First off I want to say that the WAC team has been such a blessing to me this year.  I feel so blessed that I have been able to meet so many great people and each person has helped me grow so much that I am so thankful that God placed me where I am.  This year so far has been a pretty crazy transition, realizing that the next step in life is right ahead of me is kinda crazy, and actually taking legitimate steps towards that next step is even crazier.  Living in a house with all of my buddies has been so awesome, and it will only get more awesome now that I wont have any work to do :).  I cant wait to see what is in store for this upcoming semester, I know that I need to take advantage of every opportunity with every person here because sadly enough not much time is left.  But onto more important things….

Becca Becca Becca….I am pretty sure you can thank me for this picture because I only assume that it is from when you had one of your first experiences at Yogurtland down in Irvine…with a lot of Asian people.  I know again that this particular shout out is also very overdue…even though you dont really read my blog.  I have had so many good times with you that it is always fun to talk and reflect on all the fun we have had, whether it be at school or when you are in Orange County.  I look forward to having yet another good time this Christmas break as you will hopefully be able to hang out with your favorite Asian people in the whole world.  Thank you for always keeping me grounded and knowing when to put me in my place.  You are such a dear friend and I hope that you just end up living in Laguna so you, me, and Sammy can hang out all the time!

So I realize that this was a pretty surface level reflection on the past college years.  It is probably because I cant remember all of the highlights.  What I can say is that God has blessed me beyond belief this past years at Westmont.  I feel as though I have grown a ton, and there are so many people to thank that I first off don’t want to write that because it would take me forever, but I would much rather explain to you in person how much I appreciate you.  It is weird to know that it has been 4 great years up here in Santa Barbara even though it feels so much shorter.  I have shared so many laughs, late night talks, frustrations, joys, and just all around great times with so many people that nothing I say in this blog can suffice.  So this is my open invitation to all my friends out there at Westmont.  Second semester if you are free let me know and I would love the opportunity to hang out.

I have come to the conclusion that every girl out there subconsciously wants either one of six types of guys.  The charmer (aka James Bond), the jerk (aka JC and I am not inferring that every woman wants you, you got lucky), the swag (aka Jay-Z), the stud (aka Kobe), the romantic (aka Shakespeare), and the knight in shining armor (aka Aragorn).  Here is a brief description of all of the types mentioned above before I go into the real meat of my post…

1. The Charmer

I want to reference one of my original posts for this part.  Check it out. 

http://stanizaki12.tumblr.com/post/182664204/the-art-of-charm

These guys play the cool guy card. When being a charmer you just have to naturally be cool and collected. You also have to have quite the gentleman status and a nice guy card. Typically they will do nice things because it is the right thing to do but as an added bonus they win points with the females. They also will go out of their way to make a lady feel special and win them over with their kind words and actions.

2. The Jerk

Ari Gold…awesome, a jerk some may say, but has game. 

We ain’t talkin dance moves here people.  Do nice guys finish last?  Not all the time, but it is, for some odd reason, way easier for guys that play the jerk card to get girls.  Now why girls want to subject themselves to this kind of emotional trauma it beats me.  Could be that deep down they want their own project to work on, someone so jerkish that by a certain amount of time after they start dating the rest of the world can see that he isn’t as much of a jerk anymore and then she will be told how awesome she is for being able to change him.  Manipulative move?  Yes, yes it is….is it evil to use guys like that?  Your call.  86% of the time the jerk card is a success.  I am not promoting playing the jerk card rather than the nice guy card…it’s just statistics. 

3. The Swag

Ya not much of an explanation needed here.

My example of Jay-Z should explain everything.  Now if you somehow have lived under a rock and only go online to read my blog, then here’s the story.  Jay-Z is a boss, partial owner of the New Jersey Nets (not a big deal because I am pretty sure I can buy that team for $3.50), has his own clothing brand, runs his own record label, and has had an insane amount of #1 albums.  Then comes along Beyonce, her credentials equally as impressive as Jay-Z’s if not better.  Here’s the kicker….she is beautiful, and Jay-Z is not.  So what could possibly draw these two together?  She doesn’t need money, power, or success….she needs swag.  Jay-Z’s got it, so more power to him.  So as long as you can carry yourself with confidence, a girl will see that confidence and be drawn to you. 

4. The Stud

Marko Jaric is not a stud….but what other reason could he get Adriana Lima besides the fact that he’s an NBA player?  There is no justice in this world….

Again do I have to explain myself?  Typical high school television drama.  The stud of the TV show, whether it be the starting quarterback or the star basketball player, always gets the head cheerleader or the girl that everyone wants.  This is a lot like guys who have a ton of swag, because typically most of these guys don’t have a lot to offer other than their athletic successes.  Girls will always fall for the classic line of the guy telling her he’ll score her a touchdown or score her some sort of point so she knows for a FACT that one of those points on the scoreboard is for her.

5. The Romantic

To be romantic or not to be romantic?  There should be no question.

These guys are the type that like to write poetry, sing songs while playing the guitar, watching chick flicks, and/or going on long walks. These types of guys tap into the ways of the woman and use their talents to take advantage of the women’s desire to have their emotions tapped and acknowledged. Some are built to go this route, but not I. These guys will typically be friends with a lot more girls because of their sensitivity and emotional transparency. There are very few types of guys around like this except at Westmont where 86% of the guys love to sing and play the guitar.

6. The Knight in Shining Armor

Elton John for all of you who dont know who that is.  A knight?  Yes.  Shining armor?  No. But he does wear shiny clothing sometimes.  haha. 

A Gentleman.  Defined by my Dictionary app as a “chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man.”  Urban Dictionary gave this, “A man of calm demeanor, strong preserve, intellectual thinking, polite yet meaningful speak and a good upbringing. A fighter for the cause of right with words, not guns.”  I have to say that I have had a wonderful upbringing.  I have had training from my mother in the arts of being a gentleman.  All of this comes from back in the day when knights were the Kobe and Jay-Z’s of the world, but they stuck to a code that in my books probably ranks third from the Bible and the Bro Code.  That code was the chivalry code.  See a damsel in distress?  Save her because you’ll probably have a Disney move made out of it in the future. 

Being a Knight in Shining Armor in-training I have faced many adversities in my journey (ok maybe I should say Samurai in Plastic Armor?).  Women back in the day…their knee’s would buckle at the sight of a knight, and when he would do an honorable or kind deed for her, they would be so very appreciative.  Chivalry has evolved as time has gone by.  You will be chivalrous if you have a mother or father that is able to train you well…and beware guys because the girls have evolved….and so has their evil.  As much as they want to deny it…a lot of girls today do not want guys to be as chivalrous anymore.  They think that if they let guys do nice or courteous things that they will somehow not be independent.  Or girls will tend to pick which chivalrous acts that they like and want guys to do, while blowing off others because they can as I always here….”Do it myself (here’s the thing, I know you can, it’s just that I WANT to help you and do it for you! Novel idea right?).” For example, girls will love to let you open the door for them or even hold their chair for them….BUT they don’t want you walking them to the door/car or helping them carry light things. 

Am I saying that chivalry is dead?  No way.  I am just telling the guys out there to be careful, because your acts of kindness may not be met with a kind heart. 

My advice to you ladies out there.  Just accept it.  A guy won’t offer help if he doesn’t truly mean it.  Allow him to feel appreciated, let’s face it…guy’s don’t get to do much now a days and allowing us to better serve you will help us feel better.  And by letting someone serve you, it does not mean that you are less independent, cause as guys we know you may be able to do it alone, it would make things easier on you…and on us. 

Shout Out About….Pat Hamer

So I know this is the moment that you have been waiting for…a shout out on your favorite blog.  I didnt quite know what picture to have of you, but I think this brings out your inner awkward and lonely.  It has been awesome over these past few years re-kindling our junior high friendship (if we even had one?).  We should have more Entourage days like we did sophomore year, from after chapel till dinner!  I appreciate your constant reminder to skip classes so we can go to lunch.  I’m going to make you skip class second semester when I’m not doing anything. 

Top 3 At The Moment…

1. Nsync Pandora Station

2. Josh Groban/Celine Dion Christmas Music

3. Thanksgiving Break